Oh my gosh. Oh my gosh oh my gosh oh my gosh oh my gosh.
I would really like to get myself back over here….
I don’t know what it is about this wedding stuff (yes I do, I know exactly what it is which is why I was scared to start this stuff in the first place) but it is taxing. I know I know, poor me and all that, but its just like any other family “big thing” and it brings up any breaks in bad relationships while it reminds you of all the great relationships.
Anyway, John and I found out through some tears of frustration that really, we’ll be paying for our wedding. At first I felt like a spoiled child on My Sweet 16, saying that it’s “not fair” and some such, but now of course, after being hugged by a certain handsome man and brought back down to earth a little bit, I feel great about it. This is how it should be, we are financially stable, we both make enough money to do this, and this whole wedding is really OUR wedding. All of it, so, good…we’ll pay for it. As I wrote to a friend earlier, my stepfather told us he’d be willing to give us some money, but my stepfather is kind of a douche and anything coming from him has a bajillion strings attached. So I’d rather have a budget with no strings, than no budget and a bajillion strings.
And, I think we can really pull it off. We’re going to keep the same plan we had when we thought we’d have some $$ and just go forward. See, my dad (who passed away when I was 18) invented a game that sells overseas. We get royalty checks from my dads game and I think they can really take care of most of our plans, so in a really touching way actually, my father is paying for the wedding.
So yeah, we’ll figure out honeymoons and things later, I just want to marry John, the way we both want, with our friends and family there.
BUT MAN, is it so easy to get wrapped up it's just unbelievable. WOW.
So okay, let’s media:
Cloverfield: Loved it, was nervous as hell, the time went by so fast.
Bourne Identity and Supremacy in HD: Awesome, but lately John and I have been watching plants grow if its on HD, so yeah…we’ll watch the final one later this week.
I finished reading another Pulitzer, “The Fixer” by Bernard Malamud. Now, this book was AMAZING. Malamud is an American writer, he wrote “The Natural” just to give you a little background. But “The Fixer” reads like it was written by a Russian in 1911. That’s when the book is set and it’s a horrifying story of Jewish prosecution in Russia. A Jewish man is charged with a crime he didn’t commit and spends 3 years in a Russian jail. But I swear to pete, this book could have been written by Tolstoy or Dostoyevsky. The writing is so…bare bones, so “I’m Russian I have no room in my head for luxuries, even in my writing” that I would never ever have guessed that this was a modern, American writer.
The story itself feels … expected, there’s torture and loneliness and poor Yakov Bok going crazy in a solitary cell, okay, I’ll say it…but we’ve seen this before.
But truly, the feel of the book is old Russian literature (one of my favorite milieus if you will) that seriously, if I hadn’t known, I wouldn’t have known.
Anyway, its time for a Pulitzer break, I need some Jodi Piccoult or some Stephen King or something, any recommendations?
2 comments:
Seriously, doing it on your own is better. I've heard from plenty of people who've had families pay for it, that they feel they have to let their mothers (or whoever) make decisions, or compromise on what they want, because someone else is paying for it. Maybe it won't be as lavish, but if you decide you want to wear a teal gown and a tierra, and have a punk band at the reception, you won't have to fight with anyone about it.
Thanks Speedy, that's exactly what I thought after I calmed down.
It just makes it even more what its supposed to be. John and I doing what we want, how we want, when we want, and for who we want.
And how did you know about the teal and the punk band? Dangit.
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