So yeah, I’m trying to reconcile myself to just being one of those women that plans a wedding. How and why do people do this? Besides just getting married, that I understand, but weddings? WHY? WHY DO WE DO THIS? Oh my.
I’m frustrating so many people by telling them that they, and their children, can wear whatever they want to the wedding. And my mother says “how can you say that? This wedding is so you can create a picture!”
BUT I DON”T WANT TO CREATE A PICTURE, I just want my friends and family there, I don’t care what they’re wearing, or if they’re dress matches a flower, or a matchbook or an earring.
“Well what is your maid of honor wearing?”
I DO NOT HAVE A MAID OF HONOR, man, if you knew Sabrina you would know that that title just does not fit her. She is my “best woman” and she can wear whatever the sam hell she wants!
“Well, do you have a ring pillow?”
A RING PILLOW? Really? No, no, I don’t have a ring pillow, I don’t want a ring pillow (unless its big enough for me and john to take a nap on after we say the vows, we’ll be tired).
“What about a program?” A PROGRAM? No, no programs, no ring pillows, no “pictures”, no veil, no trains, no matching outfits, no flowery centerpieces, no garters, no favors, bouquet throwing or shoving cake in each other’s faces.
This is a celebration of me and John, our families and friends and the finest city on earth. This is a celebration of hilarity and love and karaoke. This is a party, on a boat, with singing and dancing and everyone being comfortable in what they’re wearing.
And if it turns out I forgot to mark a table as the gift table, my guests can put those gifts right on the floor, I promise, I won’t let them get trampled on.
5 comments:
I think you are doing a great job, Margaret! Just keep your ground and just let the questions and pressures go. Sadly, the pressures won't go away, but if you can, just let them go. We are the ones who can change the standard wedding traditions! YOU CAN DO IT! YOU CAN GET THROUGH IT! Cause you already are!!
YES! to everything erica said. you're not playing the role that people are expecting of you. it's okay ... you're all about the VIS. people often don't know how or what to feel around the very best improVISation. but if the people who are up there are taking care of one another, supporting each other and having a really great time, then that's ALL that matters. right? right.
I love the idea of a giant ring pillow to take a nap on after the ceremony!
My beau and I went to a lush, extravagent wedding in San Diego a couple weeks ago, and the days leading up to the wedding I just kept saying, "I DO NOT want a wedding! Civil service, all the way please!" It should be a celebration, plain and simple, however you want that to look--with your nearest and dearest, but most importantly your dear-EST-est. :)
I have never loved you more than I do today. Amen, sister. Amen.
Thanks so much ladies, you guys rule, and honestly let me know that I'm not crazy.
And that is huge.
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